May 15th, 2021 was the day my life changed forever. I woke up from a nap around 10isham and went to use bathroom. The day before I had been having hot flashes and cramps but was assured in past it was normal. I was also assured by the OB at Wellspan the loss of my mucus plug at 12 and 15 weeks was normal. I was denied a cervical exam at my 13 week appointment when I brought up pelvic pressure and an odd sensation that I even said felt like dilation. Having had so many catheters inserted during IVF I knew what my cervix opening and being stretched felt like.
My concerns and requests were ignored and denied. I was labeled a nervous first mom due to hx of miscarriage and infertility. A simple ultrasound and check would have saved Flynn's life. I will forever wish I advocated more.
In that morning in May I felt an intense pressure. Like something was falling out. Like I was laying an egg. I looked down and literally half of my amniotic bag was already outside of me. The ride to the hospital never felt longer.
I was told I could be induced the rest of the way or wait and see what happened but risk infection. My water had broken being transported from stretcher to bed and Flynn was a footling breech. I was induced.
At 230p Flynn was born. He had a healthy heartbeat. He was moving. Alive. But due to only being 17 weeks once cord was cut the doctor kept him away from me for 2 mins and then he had passed and she handed him back. I resent her for that too.
IC affects 1 in 100 pregnancies. It's silent labor and dilation at times. Meaning one minute you're fine and the next baby is born. You can also experience contractions like I did.
I hope one day awareness and preventative measures are available to all. Currently insurnace companies think it's too expensive to offer simple ultrasounds to check at 12-18 weeks. Hopefully one day that'll change.
I love you Bumble🐝 forever and always.
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